It was supposed to be like any other Monday where the kids have fun at xplorerkids, until Kyan came crying to us, bleeding from his forehead. I panicked. I really did. I think I was more scared than he was. Trembled and didn't know what to do, I was trying to stop myself from fainting and my limbs were cold.
He was at the rock wall, I think he must have fallen and hurt his head against the wall. He had a deep gaping cut on his right eyelid. Blood was oozing out from his wound. I tried to apply pressure on it. The minute I let go of my hand, the blood started flowing again. Thank god the manager at xplorer kids was calm enough to apply antiseptic lotion and ice pack to keep the wound from bleeding further. She stuck a gauzed bandage over it and we left for Changi Hospital.
Nobody should ever have to experience the A & E. It's one of the worst waits ever. First I was directed to the counter to make payment. However, as Kyan's wound was still bleeding, I requested for him to see a doctor first. So they led me to room 19 - the triage room. One MO took down details of his fall. Well, his typing skills were damn slow. Couldn't really multi-task. Either he was asking me questions or he was updating info on the computer. He can't do both at the same time! In the meantime, the blood was soaking through the bandage. Then after he took Kyan's weight, we had to wait about 10 minutes to go into Room 4. The female doctor, Dr Olivia Teo, who assessed him was quite young. She was more assuring but told us that Kyan needed stitching for his wound. Then we had to go to counter 19 to wait again. This time a nurse led us to the Resusitation Room. Kyan was told to lie on the bed where they had to monitor his heart-rate and BP. Then another doctor- Dr Aziz told me that they were going to gas him in order to make him slightly drowsy so that they could stitch him up. Then he left. Another doc, Dr Gan, came to tell him that they would give him Ketamine instead to sedate him. He would be in a semi-conscious state. While they were trying to inject him, they asked to chat with him. I could never forget the look on his face when he started screaming that the injection was painful and he struggled and tried to wriggle away. He kept yelling that it was painful and that he wanted me to carry him. But I couldn't. I could only watch him helplessly as he stopped struggling and drifted off to the sedated state. That's when the nurses told me to wait outside while the doctor performed the procedure.
God knows how long I've waited outside. During the time I was seated outside, I've seen 2 old men, 1 young guy and 1 small girl (who was admitted for fits) being rushed into the A & E. The longer I sat there, the more wild thoughts grew in my head. I kept my eyes glued at the door, hoping the nurses would signal to me to go in.
Finally they did. I went in to see my poor Kyan being heavily sedated and he was talking very slowly. Told me I had 2 heads and 4 eyes. I tried not to be alarmed. He had 5 stitches. I sat next to him and kept on talking and asking him questions. After 15 minutes later, he was better. More active and he could respond better to me. Finally after the doc checked him, he could be discharged and off we went home.
I pray that he would be fine soon. It's really heartbreaking to see him in pain and me not able to relief his pain. I wished I was the one who had gotten hurt instead. My heart nearly stopped today and I'm still feeling it now.
Monday, November 2, 2009
Monday, May 25, 2009
Kyan's and Rayden's PTC (2009-Mid year)
Went to school for PTC last Thursday. The teachers had very good comments about Kyan and Rayden.
Kyan:
Teacher Florence said that he learns well in school. He knows many sight words and is able to read a lot of words as compared to the rest. He is able to voice out his displeasure, like complain about others. In the past, he would have kept quiet and become Mr Unnoticeable. Now he's different, he is a good role model to his peers as he is able to teach the others what he knows. He is more active now too as he enjoys outdoor activities. He has a fantastic memory as he is able to remember things that he has learnt before. Meng Lao Shi also said that he is able to correct her if she writes wrongly (on purpose). The rest of the class could only tell her that she has made a mistake but can't pinpoint exactly where, except for Kyan. He is rather observant and enjoys learning a lot.
After hearing all these, I think I was beaming from ear to ear. Kyan has very good memory and observant skills. He is able to remember things that he has seen or hear and talk about it at a later time. He also has a keen interest in writing. For instance, I can leave him to do his Chinese writing while I do housework. He is able to sit there patiently to write neatly, erasing when necessary, without complaints. I sure hope he stays this way. When I hear how J made her gal sit for 2 and a half hours just to complete the same piece of writing, I'm glad I do not have to resort to that. The most important thing is that Kyan loves learning. And I can see that, evident in his perfectionist style of imitating his teacher write, having wasted tons of drawing paper. He hangs his writing up with pride and even grades himself on whether he has written well by putting a tick and comments like "good" or "very good". I really hope it stays this way so I will not have to force him to do work next time. I think I need to brush up on his phonics and sign him up for drawing and piano classes. This shall be my June hols homework.
Rayden:
The teachers are extremely amused by him. He has to sing himself to sleep every afternoon, with him crooning at the top of his voice, the songs he knows. He refuses to let Du Lao Shi bathe him cos he hates to wash his hair. Whenever it comes to bath time, he'll linger among the students, hoping for his teacher to miss him so he could escape from showering. He loves Teacher Sally to shower him cos she doesn't wash his hair. He even knows that the teachers rotate their showering time of the kids. On days that Du Lao Shi doesn't shower him, he'll purposely walk up to her and tell her he wants her to do the job that day. This cheeky boy! Teacher Alina commented that he loves singing and dancing but when it comes to fine gross motor skills like colouring or pasting stickers, he'll complain he doesn't know how.
For Rayden I'm not so concerned yet. Maybe he is still young and as compared to Kyan then, Rayden can actually do lots more that he can't so I'm going to let him progress at his own pace. But I must say that no matter how tired this boy is in the morning, he always manages to psyche himself awake and smile. That's quite a big consolation for me.
Kyan:
Teacher Florence said that he learns well in school. He knows many sight words and is able to read a lot of words as compared to the rest. He is able to voice out his displeasure, like complain about others. In the past, he would have kept quiet and become Mr Unnoticeable. Now he's different, he is a good role model to his peers as he is able to teach the others what he knows. He is more active now too as he enjoys outdoor activities. He has a fantastic memory as he is able to remember things that he has learnt before. Meng Lao Shi also said that he is able to correct her if she writes wrongly (on purpose). The rest of the class could only tell her that she has made a mistake but can't pinpoint exactly where, except for Kyan. He is rather observant and enjoys learning a lot.
After hearing all these, I think I was beaming from ear to ear. Kyan has very good memory and observant skills. He is able to remember things that he has seen or hear and talk about it at a later time. He also has a keen interest in writing. For instance, I can leave him to do his Chinese writing while I do housework. He is able to sit there patiently to write neatly, erasing when necessary, without complaints. I sure hope he stays this way. When I hear how J made her gal sit for 2 and a half hours just to complete the same piece of writing, I'm glad I do not have to resort to that. The most important thing is that Kyan loves learning. And I can see that, evident in his perfectionist style of imitating his teacher write, having wasted tons of drawing paper. He hangs his writing up with pride and even grades himself on whether he has written well by putting a tick and comments like "good" or "very good". I really hope it stays this way so I will not have to force him to do work next time. I think I need to brush up on his phonics and sign him up for drawing and piano classes. This shall be my June hols homework.
Rayden:
The teachers are extremely amused by him. He has to sing himself to sleep every afternoon, with him crooning at the top of his voice, the songs he knows. He refuses to let Du Lao Shi bathe him cos he hates to wash his hair. Whenever it comes to bath time, he'll linger among the students, hoping for his teacher to miss him so he could escape from showering. He loves Teacher Sally to shower him cos she doesn't wash his hair. He even knows that the teachers rotate their showering time of the kids. On days that Du Lao Shi doesn't shower him, he'll purposely walk up to her and tell her he wants her to do the job that day. This cheeky boy! Teacher Alina commented that he loves singing and dancing but when it comes to fine gross motor skills like colouring or pasting stickers, he'll complain he doesn't know how.
For Rayden I'm not so concerned yet. Maybe he is still young and as compared to Kyan then, Rayden can actually do lots more that he can't so I'm going to let him progress at his own pace. But I must say that no matter how tired this boy is in the morning, he always manages to psyche himself awake and smile. That's quite a big consolation for me.
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Rayden's progress
The problem with the 2nd kid is that we as parents don't do as much. So he sort of just learns on his own, gaining as much knowledge as possible as he observes and interacts. Rayden is very good at comprehending what the adults are trying to tell him and he is able to respond accordingly.
Last Saturday, he was at my mum's. He took a sweet from the bowl and asked my sister to open it for him. She told him she needed to use the scissors to cut it. She asked him whether he knew how to cut. He replied yes. So my curious sister asked him what he could cut. He replied, "Carrots". Haha, he was referring to the plastic carrot toy that he has...
Then today, when I was cutting his nails, he pointed to a part of the nail clipper that has a small ball bearing. He muttered "ball" and insisted that I take a look at it. I replied him, "Mummy knows" and he took it to mean "Mummy's nose" so he gladly pointed at my nose! *LOL*
At coming to 22mths, his vocab is quite extensive. As far as I can remember, he is able to dictate what he wants in a clearer way than Kyan used to before.
Words that he knows:
1) parts of the body (hair, eyes, ears, nose, tongue, teeth, mouth, hands, fingers, legs, toes)
2) people like Mummy, daddy, kor kor, ah ma, ah yi, teacher alina, auntie, uncle
3) friend's names - amol, keryn, kelly, gerard (which he pronounces as "rard")
4) toys like drum, ball, book, bicycle,
5) clothes like jacket, shirt, shorts, socks, shoes, bag
6) verbs like kick, bounce, throw (associated with ball)
7) verbs like jump, run, swim, bathe, pee, poo, draw, read
8) I want
9) Don't want
10) can count from 1 to 10
11) knows part of the alphabet
12) feeling words like happy and angry
Last Saturday, he was at my mum's. He took a sweet from the bowl and asked my sister to open it for him. She told him she needed to use the scissors to cut it. She asked him whether he knew how to cut. He replied yes. So my curious sister asked him what he could cut. He replied, "Carrots". Haha, he was referring to the plastic carrot toy that he has...
Then today, when I was cutting his nails, he pointed to a part of the nail clipper that has a small ball bearing. He muttered "ball" and insisted that I take a look at it. I replied him, "Mummy knows" and he took it to mean "Mummy's nose" so he gladly pointed at my nose! *LOL*
At coming to 22mths, his vocab is quite extensive. As far as I can remember, he is able to dictate what he wants in a clearer way than Kyan used to before.
Words that he knows:
1) parts of the body (hair, eyes, ears, nose, tongue, teeth, mouth, hands, fingers, legs, toes)
2) people like Mummy, daddy, kor kor, ah ma, ah yi, teacher alina, auntie, uncle
3) friend's names - amol, keryn, kelly, gerard (which he pronounces as "rard")
4) toys like drum, ball, book, bicycle,
5) clothes like jacket, shirt, shorts, socks, shoes, bag
6) verbs like kick, bounce, throw (associated with ball)
7) verbs like jump, run, swim, bathe, pee, poo, draw, read
8) I want
9) Don't want
10) can count from 1 to 10
11) knows part of the alphabet
12) feeling words like happy and angry
Monday, February 16, 2009
RIP
By the way, the poor terrapin was finally found, whole shell still intact, trapped within the wall and the TV console. Now, we definitely know that it was Rayden instead of Kyan who threw the little poor thing. Asri buried it downstairs and said a little prayer for it.
Sorry, my little terrrapin....
Sorry, my little terrrapin....
Random Acts of Love
Ever since we've the kids , Asri and I have not had much couple time together. Unlike S who goes dating with her hubby every weekend, whatever time we have together is precious. This time can be just a couple of hours while the kids are either at school or at my mum's. Still, we treasure these times dearly.
Just last week, I complained to him that I didn't have lunch in school cos it was TDday. He picked me up to go to the centre and tapao food for me in a lunchbox, complete with a spoon and bite sized chicken pieces so I could eat in the car.
Then on Valentine's eve, he prepared dinner- some chicken spaghetti thingy complete with chocolate and ice cream dessert. ;)
On Valentine's Day, I received a bouquet of roses, according to him- I'm the red one, the one and only...;0)
Just last week, I complained to him that I didn't have lunch in school cos it was TDday. He picked me up to go to the centre and tapao food for me in a lunchbox, complete with a spoon and bite sized chicken pieces so I could eat in the car.
Then on Valentine's eve, he prepared dinner- some chicken spaghetti thingy complete with chocolate and ice cream dessert. ;)
On Valentine's Day, I received a bouquet of roses, according to him- I'm the red one, the one and only...;0)
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Heartbroken Part 3
On Friday we could not decide where to go. I was surfing the net for ideas while Asri took out the terrapins for their daily "exercise". J had asked us to take care of hers while she went away to Genting for holiday. Asri left the kids alone with the terrapins. Big mistake. When he went to the living room a while later, only our terrapin was left. J's terrapin had disappeared! We panicked of course. Immediately we asked Rayden what had happened as we were sure it was him who had hidden the little animal somewhere. We turned the whole house upside down but could not find any. We suspected that Rayden had thrown the terrapin out of the window. It spoiled my mood for the entire day.. We didn't go out till evening to take the flyer.
Then when we reached home, I just casually asked Kyan how Rayden had thrown away the terrapin out of the window. He demonstrated that Rayden had stood on the sofa and flung the terrapin out of the window. I became suspicious because I knew Rayden wouldn't have done that. A thought crossed my mind, maybe it was Kyan who did it. I asked him again and he admitted that it was him. I was shocked. I questioned why he did that. He said that he didn't like the small terrapin. I was really speechless. Asri caned him and both of us ignored him. He fell asleep, crying.
I really couldn't believe that he had done such a thing. Maybe he did it cos he didn't like K and he knew that the terrapin belonged to her, or maybe he did it to show us that he was jealous of his brother cos he's younger and smaller, ie, the terrapin was smaller than ours. I went to bed, perplexed.
The next morning Asri went downstairs to search for the terrapin but to no avail. Kyan woke up with swollen eyes. My heart went out to him but I still could not get over the incident. We went downstairs to search for the terrrapin before moving to Kovan and Tampines to find similar ones for J.
We couldn't find the right one. When we reached home, I was so mad with Kyan that I caned him again and sent him to his room. He screamed his lungs out. I knew I shouldn't have vented my anger on him. I was struggling with the shock that my son was actually so "evil" to throw a live animal down and the frustration of how to tell J about the fate of her terrapin. Kyan must have been traumatised because he mentioned that he was tired and went to bed by himself.
When I've calmed down, I spoke to him about the incident and he knew he was in the wrong. Asri said perhaps he is still young so he didn't know that he was actually killing an animal. Maybe his intention was just to get rid of it, as in get it out of his sight. I know I was too harsh on him. I felt really bad.
Asri felt bad too. He went to Serangoon to search for the "right" terrapin. He bought 2 similar ones back but they still don't look like J's.
Come Sunday, we went to Parkway to search for terrapins again but can't find any. That night, I told J what had happened. She was quite ok about it. I felt so bad.
I knew I came down too hard on Kyan. Sometimes when I looked at him, I can see this sadness in his eyes, as though to tell me that he knows he's wrong to do that. When I asked him to hug me, he hugged me really tight. I think he knows. Maybe I've to be more aware of his feelings. Maybe I've neglected him in a way cos I'd assumed he's older and can do more things on his own. Maybe he feels that we've been showering all our love and attention on his brother.
I really feel so sad. Maybe I've not been a good enough mother.
Then when we reached home, I just casually asked Kyan how Rayden had thrown away the terrapin out of the window. He demonstrated that Rayden had stood on the sofa and flung the terrapin out of the window. I became suspicious because I knew Rayden wouldn't have done that. A thought crossed my mind, maybe it was Kyan who did it. I asked him again and he admitted that it was him. I was shocked. I questioned why he did that. He said that he didn't like the small terrapin. I was really speechless. Asri caned him and both of us ignored him. He fell asleep, crying.
I really couldn't believe that he had done such a thing. Maybe he did it cos he didn't like K and he knew that the terrapin belonged to her, or maybe he did it to show us that he was jealous of his brother cos he's younger and smaller, ie, the terrapin was smaller than ours. I went to bed, perplexed.
The next morning Asri went downstairs to search for the terrapin but to no avail. Kyan woke up with swollen eyes. My heart went out to him but I still could not get over the incident. We went downstairs to search for the terrrapin before moving to Kovan and Tampines to find similar ones for J.
We couldn't find the right one. When we reached home, I was so mad with Kyan that I caned him again and sent him to his room. He screamed his lungs out. I knew I shouldn't have vented my anger on him. I was struggling with the shock that my son was actually so "evil" to throw a live animal down and the frustration of how to tell J about the fate of her terrapin. Kyan must have been traumatised because he mentioned that he was tired and went to bed by himself.
When I've calmed down, I spoke to him about the incident and he knew he was in the wrong. Asri said perhaps he is still young so he didn't know that he was actually killing an animal. Maybe his intention was just to get rid of it, as in get it out of his sight. I know I was too harsh on him. I felt really bad.
Asri felt bad too. He went to Serangoon to search for the "right" terrapin. He bought 2 similar ones back but they still don't look like J's.
Come Sunday, we went to Parkway to search for terrapins again but can't find any. That night, I told J what had happened. She was quite ok about it. I felt so bad.
I knew I came down too hard on Kyan. Sometimes when I looked at him, I can see this sadness in his eyes, as though to tell me that he knows he's wrong to do that. When I asked him to hug me, he hugged me really tight. I think he knows. Maybe I've to be more aware of his feelings. Maybe I've neglected him in a way cos I'd assumed he's older and can do more things on his own. Maybe he feels that we've been showering all our love and attention on his brother.
I really feel so sad. Maybe I've not been a good enough mother.
Holiday Activities
We brought the kids to the zoo on Wednesday. It was fun but tiring! The kids enjoyed themselves too, especially Kyan at the water play section. Rayden was claustrophobic cos he refused to step into the water at all.
Thursday we were at the Jacob Ballas Children's Garden at Botanical Garden. The kids had fun at the water play section. Before we could venture the park further, it poured. Thank god the kids had fun decorating recycled materials for the xmas tree. When the weather cleared slightly, we went into the park again for a quick tour of the place. Then it poured again so we decided to go home before catching the Elmo show at Marina Square.
Thursday we were at the Jacob Ballas Children's Garden at Botanical Garden. The kids had fun at the water play section. Before we could venture the park further, it poured. Thank god the kids had fun decorating recycled materials for the xmas tree. When the weather cleared slightly, we went into the park again for a quick tour of the place. Then it poured again so we decided to go home before catching the Elmo show at Marina Square.
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