10 million dollars!

If I had 10 million dollars, I will

• pay in full for our current Punggol flat,
• buy an apartment at Amber View - the one with the nice balcony overlooking the sea,
• get a beetle for myself and paint it pink!
• get a car for Asri too,
• invest in blue chips,
• save for Kyan and Rayden,
• distribute part of my wealth to mum and sis,
• go for a well-deserved holiday for the whole family,
• go shopping and get presents for everyone I know!
• donate a large sum to children and cancer charities
  

CNY 2008 - the not-so-pleasant part

Then came the third day. Rayden had fever and it didn't go down despite the medicine. It got worse on Sunday morning so I brought him to the GP downstairs. He was given Brufen- a stronger fever medicine and Oralcort - a cream for his ulcers in the mouth. I suspect that he had HFMD but the GP wasn't sure.

His ulcers became worse. More started appearing in his mouth, on his tongue, gum and lips. He was so cranky that he couldn't sleep or feed. He didn't even want to suckle. He was still having high fever of 39 degrees.

Then on Monday morning we brought him to see Doc Sim. He said the poor boy's mouth was full of ulcer and that he was in a lot of pain. My heart felt so pained. He said to spoonfeed him with milk and to let him have ice cream and yoghurt. These will help to soothe his throat. He was given Difflam- a gel for ulcers and Tonimer- a throat spray.

We spoon fed him with cold expressed milk and Heinz fruit gel. He quite liked it. Despite being sick, he could still clap his hands when we asked him to. My little brave boy.

Then came the many sleepless nights cos the little one refused to sleep on the bed and needed someone to carry him all the time. Both Asri and I were completely exhausted.

Now my only hope is that Kyan doesn't infected by it.

CNY 2008 - the happier part

We had 2 full days of visiting. 1st day was to all the aunties' houses and 2nd day was to Sally Jie Jie's house for sharkfin's then everyone came to our place for dinner. Kyan was delighted at seeing his house full of people, so much so that he was actually quite sad when all left. He didn't verbalise it but just remained very quiet when we were cleaning up the house. Poor boy. Rayden was clinging tightly to Mummy or Daddy cos everyone was trying to carry him.

Scratched Tag!

This may sound bimbotic but my tag suffered a scratch on Tues afternoon! I accidentally hit it against the glass table top at the centre. The scratch is so obvious..My heart is broken.

Marriage

I've just watched Grey's Anatomy. Had to keep the volume down cos the males of the family were all sleeping. Back to the episode, Allison asked the black guy who was divorced from his wife, whether he had an affair. He said no. Then she asked why then the divorce. He said one day he just woke up and knew he had to walk away, walk away from the marriage.

That's strange isn't it? No quarrels, no betrayals, no disagreements. The love just died out like that. I remembered telling Asri exactly that years ago. I, of course , had my fears about getting married. I was afraid that our love would just fizzled out like that. But why is that so? How can one's feelings for someone just disappear like that ? It really doesn't make sense.

Probably the routine of everyday life puts a toll on the marriage. You do the same things everyday and there's no excitement to look forward to anymore. After marriage, you just get too lazy to do anything cos you are too used to everything. Does it sound reasonable?

It's very easy to slip into this state, especially after we have kids. They just take up so much of our time that we don't spend much couple time together. That's why we make it an effort to try to celebrate special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries together. He'll try to take leave on my off days so that we could go out for a nice meal when the kids are in school.

I think communication is so very important in a relationship. Our conversations just revolve around the kids. Even if we are spending coupletime together, we'll still talk about them! I guess that's quite unavoidable. He also tells me about his work and we'll still chit chat on the phone everyday when he's at work. So, I think, it's not so bad.


For Asri and me, I think the long dating period works. We 've had so many quarrels and trying to sort out our relationship then. Probably that's why we understand each other's temperament now. But it's also easier to take things for granted. Maybe I'm guilty of that sometimes. But he always gives in to me. I think if not for his patience, we would not have lasted for so long. Between us, I'm the rash one, the one who does things without thinking at times. He's the calmer one and he always offers a different perspective cos he's more analytical, maybe from a male's point of view. Sometimes he helps me to see things in a different light.

Probably that's what makes our relationship work. We are different yet similar. We've grown so used to each other. Maybe we should join some know-your- spouse-contest and win some money. Ha

Housecleaning

I'm so exhausted from cleaning the house. This is major cleaning for Chinese New Year.

Happy Birthday..darling!

We celebrated Asri's birthday yesterday with his favourite durian cake. Kyan loved it so much that he had 4 (small) pieces!

Then I gave him his watch...He loves it!

Today I went shopping with Sandee at Tampines Mall. She just casually asked me to get a Tag for myself. I joked and told her I'll sms Asri to ask him whether he wanted to buy for me. I almost couldn't believe it when he said yes! Wow, I was very pleasantly surprised!

Now I feel bad for not buying him a Tag...

AND our 6th anniversary's coming up. Time really flies, 7 years of dating, 6 years of marriage plus 2 kids. I think we've come a long way.