Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Scratched Tag!
This may sound bimbotic but my tag suffered a scratch on Tues afternoon! I accidentally hit it against the glass table top at the centre. The scratch is so obvious..My heart is broken.
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Marriage
I've just watched Grey's Anatomy. Had to keep the volume down cos the males of the family were all sleeping. Back to the episode, Allison asked the black guy who was divorced from his wife, whether he had an affair. He said no. Then she asked why then the divorce. He said one day he just woke up and knew he had to walk away, walk away from the marriage.
That's strange isn't it? No quarrels, no betrayals, no disagreements. The love just died out like that. I remembered telling Asri exactly that years ago. I, of course , had my fears about getting married. I was afraid that our love would just fizzled out like that. But why is that so? How can one's feelings for someone just disappear like that ? It really doesn't make sense.
Probably the routine of everyday life puts a toll on the marriage. You do the same things everyday and there's no excitement to look forward to anymore. After marriage, you just get too lazy to do anything cos you are too used to everything. Does it sound reasonable?
It's very easy to slip into this state, especially after we have kids. They just take up so much of our time that we don't spend much couple time together. That's why we make it an effort to try to celebrate special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries together. He'll try to take leave on my off days so that we could go out for a nice meal when the kids are in school.
I think communication is so very important in a relationship. Our conversations just revolve around the kids. Even if we are spending coupletime together, we'll still talk about them! I guess that's quite unavoidable. He also tells me about his work and we'll still chit chat on the phone everyday when he's at work. So, I think, it's not so bad.
For Asri and me, I think the long dating period works. We 've had so many quarrels and trying to sort out our relationship then. Probably that's why we understand each other's temperament now. But it's also easier to take things for granted. Maybe I'm guilty of that sometimes. But he always gives in to me. I think if not for his patience, we would not have lasted for so long. Between us, I'm the rash one, the one who does things without thinking at times. He's the calmer one and he always offers a different perspective cos he's more analytical, maybe from a male's point of view. Sometimes he helps me to see things in a different light.
Probably that's what makes our relationship work. We are different yet similar. We've grown so used to each other. Maybe we should join some know-your- spouse-contest and win some money. Ha
That's strange isn't it? No quarrels, no betrayals, no disagreements. The love just died out like that. I remembered telling Asri exactly that years ago. I, of course , had my fears about getting married. I was afraid that our love would just fizzled out like that. But why is that so? How can one's feelings for someone just disappear like that ? It really doesn't make sense.
Probably the routine of everyday life puts a toll on the marriage. You do the same things everyday and there's no excitement to look forward to anymore. After marriage, you just get too lazy to do anything cos you are too used to everything. Does it sound reasonable?
It's very easy to slip into this state, especially after we have kids. They just take up so much of our time that we don't spend much couple time together. That's why we make it an effort to try to celebrate special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries together. He'll try to take leave on my off days so that we could go out for a nice meal when the kids are in school.
I think communication is so very important in a relationship. Our conversations just revolve around the kids. Even if we are spending coupletime together, we'll still talk about them! I guess that's quite unavoidable. He also tells me about his work and we'll still chit chat on the phone everyday when he's at work. So, I think, it's not so bad.
For Asri and me, I think the long dating period works. We 've had so many quarrels and trying to sort out our relationship then. Probably that's why we understand each other's temperament now. But it's also easier to take things for granted. Maybe I'm guilty of that sometimes. But he always gives in to me. I think if not for his patience, we would not have lasted for so long. Between us, I'm the rash one, the one who does things without thinking at times. He's the calmer one and he always offers a different perspective cos he's more analytical, maybe from a male's point of view. Sometimes he helps me to see things in a different light.
Probably that's what makes our relationship work. We are different yet similar. We've grown so used to each other. Maybe we should join some know-your- spouse-contest and win some money. Ha
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Housecleaning
I'm so exhausted from cleaning the house. This is major cleaning for Chinese New Year.
Happy Birthday..darling!
We celebrated Asri's birthday yesterday with his favourite durian cake. Kyan loved it so much that he had 4 (small) pieces!
Then I gave him his watch...He loves it!
Today I went shopping with Sandee at Tampines Mall. She just casually asked me to get a Tag for myself. I joked and told her I'll sms Asri to ask him whether he wanted to buy for me. I almost couldn't believe it when he said yes! Wow, I was very pleasantly surprised!
Now I feel bad for not buying him a Tag...
AND our 6th anniversary's coming up. Time really flies, 7 years of dating, 6 years of marriage plus 2 kids. I think we've come a long way.
Then I gave him his watch...He loves it!
Today I went shopping with Sandee at Tampines Mall. She just casually asked me to get a Tag for myself. I joked and told her I'll sms Asri to ask him whether he wanted to buy for me. I almost couldn't believe it when he said yes! Wow, I was very pleasantly surprised!
Now I feel bad for not buying him a Tag...
AND our 6th anniversary's coming up. Time really flies, 7 years of dating, 6 years of marriage plus 2 kids. I think we've come a long way.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
My husband
I'm really thankful for him. Sometimes when I hear my friends speaking about what their husbands are like, it makes me appreciate him more.
As a daddy-
On days when I've to work late, he takes care of the children by himself (which drives him nuts sometimes) but he manages alright. He plays with them, cooks for Kyan, feeds Rayden, bathe both of them, takes Kyan for train rides and showers them with so much love! I'm thankful that when I'm not around, the children are ok with him (unlike some of my friends where their kids cling onto their mummy and refuse daddy).
As a husband-
He'll try his best to provide for me and buys me things that I love! I'm still waiting for my Rolex though. He sacrifices a lot of his time for me and I know I don't tell him enough how much appreciative I am of him but I really do. SO, he's going to get a "BIG" present for his birthday next week. *grin*
As a daddy-
On days when I've to work late, he takes care of the children by himself (which drives him nuts sometimes) but he manages alright. He plays with them, cooks for Kyan, feeds Rayden, bathe both of them, takes Kyan for train rides and showers them with so much love! I'm thankful that when I'm not around, the children are ok with him (unlike some of my friends where their kids cling onto their mummy and refuse daddy).
As a husband-
He'll try his best to provide for me and buys me things that I love! I'm still waiting for my Rolex though. He sacrifices a lot of his time for me and I know I don't tell him enough how much appreciative I am of him but I really do. SO, he's going to get a "BIG" present for his birthday next week. *grin*
Sunday, January 13, 2008
Brothers' Love
Both of them adore each other as of now still. Kyan will play with his brother sometimes by trying to make him laugh and just the other day, while he was playing by himself, he stopped, gave Rayden a kiss on his head then continued playing again. Both Asri and I saw that and we were so touched! There are times when Rayden tried to snatch his toy or "destroys" whatever he has laid out on the floor and he'll come to me, looking exasperated to complain about his brother. He will not hit Rayden or push him away. Ha, that's my sweet boy.
Rayden on the other hand, gets so excited upon hearing Kyan's voice and seeing him when he comes home from school everyday. In the mornings, he will try to wake Kyan up if he sees Kyan sleeping. He'll look in wonder at Kyan when he sings at the top of his voice. I prefer to call that "admiration". *grins*
So for now, I'm happy that the two of them get along with each other, hopefully it'll stay this way always.
Rayden on the other hand, gets so excited upon hearing Kyan's voice and seeing him when he comes home from school everyday. In the mornings, he will try to wake Kyan up if he sees Kyan sleeping. He'll look in wonder at Kyan when he sings at the top of his voice. I prefer to call that "admiration". *grins*
So for now, I'm happy that the two of them get along with each other, hopefully it'll stay this way always.
My little "train" boy
He's so obsessed about trains, especially MRT trains! He loves it when Asri takes him on the LRT, even if it's only for a round. And every night he'll make Asri spell the names of the LRT stations and he'll write them out on his magna doodle board. So much so that he knows how to spell Cove, Meridian, Punggol and Oasis on his own.
My mum and sis also take him on train rides along the EastWest bound tracks. He knows all the stations from Pasir Ris to Cityhall (cos that's usually how far he'd gone) and their respective station numbers! He loves the black and red train cabins. Ha
His obsession with trains continues in the bathroom. Whenever we bathe him, he'll treat the shower door as the train doors and he'll go on and on about the announcements made in the train. AND we can't leave the toilet unless it "stops" at Meridian station!
My mum and sis also take him on train rides along the EastWest bound tracks. He knows all the stations from Pasir Ris to Cityhall (cos that's usually how far he'd gone) and their respective station numbers! He loves the black and red train cabins. Ha
His obsession with trains continues in the bathroom. Whenever we bathe him, he'll treat the shower door as the train doors and he'll go on and on about the announcements made in the train. AND we can't leave the toilet unless it "stops" at Meridian station!
Baby Rayden
He has two distinct lower teeth and one left side incisor! He can crawl pretty fast, but he's very clingy to us. He needs one adult to carry him all the time.
Food he has eaten so far:
Food he has eaten so far:
- avocado
- banana
- apple
- watermelon
- plum
- bread
- Baby bites biscuit
- Frisocrem rice and wheat
- Organic brown rice-Earth's best
- carrot
- potato
- porridge
Belated Flashback 2007
I've been wanting to post his for quite some time but didn't get the chance to do it...until now. Here's my take for year 2007...
Jan 2007-
Asri, Kyan and I (with baby Rayden inside me) went for a 3day-2night vacation to Club Med Bintan. It was pure enjoyment with us eating and eating non-stop! I must have gained a few pounds!
Mar 2007-
Back to teaching at school. Was in the morning session. IT was terrible having to teach and being pregnant at the same time. Did a lot of relief. Sometimes 9 periods straight. Was so hungry!
Apr 2007-
Baby Rayden was born on 30th April 2007 @ 1349. He was an overdue baby! Due date's supposed to be 28th April. I guessed he didn't feel ready to come out then.
I was at my mum's on 29th April. Felt mild contractions but could still take it. Came back with Kyan in the evening time. Asri had to work late. Then the contractions were stronger. It was 12midnight. I knew it wouldn't be so fast so I forced myself to sleep. Kept waking up every 15mins to 1/2 hour. It rained heavily in the middle of the night. I felt too lazy to wake up and prepare everything in the cozy weather so I forced myself to sleep again. Finally woke up at 6am. Called school to tell them I wasn't going that day. Then we packed and sent the half-sleep Kyan to my mum's.
When we got to the hospital, it was already 715am. Was admitted and waited for Doc Han to come. Told him straight that I wanted epidural. I did not want to challenge my threshold for pain. He said he had to burst the waterbag before they could administer the jab. Trust me- I've never been so violated before! The pain of the waterbag being burst was@!!?? After the jab, I could relax and sleep while waiting for the dilation.
THEN I felt pain! Extreme pain on my right abdominal. Called in the doc. He said there was a slight chance that my C-section wound may burst! I panicked. I was in so much pain that I asked to have the epidural dosage increased! Thank God they did. And I was back to my initial relaxed state. *phew*
Soon it was noon. Asri felt hungry so he went down to have a bite. The nurse came in to check for my dilation. She asked where Asri had gone to. I told her he was having lunch. She said I had better get him to come back FAST.
He did but he smelt so much of curry that I felt sick. So poor him, he went to gargle his mouth with liquid hand wash to get rid of the smell. Then Doc Han came in. I was asked to lift up my legs. Apparently, I've reached full dilation and they could see the baby's hair! I was asked to push. I did but I couldn't feel anything! So Doc Han actually pushed my stomach in a downward motion to "push" the baby out. Then the nurse had to clean his mouth before she "whacked" him to make him cry. Th reason being-he had pooped and had poo on his mouth! Yuck! *smiles* That's baby Rayden!
Then he was weighed and measured....while I was being stitched up. I didn't feel anything at all. I could still laugh and joke. Then I held Baby Rayden in my arms. The feeling was just indescribable.
I stayed a night at the hospital and it sucked cos I couldn't sleep. I missed Kyan and Asri so much. The good thing was I could go back the next day. The bad news was that baby Rayden had to stay on cos he had jaundice. Poor thing!
Thank God he could go back on 2nd May. Then that was the start of the month long confinement period.
May 2007-
To sum it up, I've been through RE_STITCHING of the wound!, Malay massage in which Saniah burped so excessively, breastfeeding and spending lots of time online! *Grin*
June 2007-
Back to work at the centre and Baby Rayden was placed in Bright Kids.
August 2007-
Finally mustered up enough courage to go for lasik! Actually, Belle and I had our op just a day after our evaluation test so there wasn't much time to think. It was the best rash decision I've made for myself. It was as if I've regained my "new" eyesight, which logically speaking, is quite true.
September 2007-
I received my first Coach bag from darling Asri for my birthday! *Whee*
December 2007-
I received my first Coach wallet from Asri...again! *yay*
In General:Jan 2007-
Asri, Kyan and I (with baby Rayden inside me) went for a 3day-2night vacation to Club Med Bintan. It was pure enjoyment with us eating and eating non-stop! I must have gained a few pounds!
Mar 2007-
Back to teaching at school. Was in the morning session. IT was terrible having to teach and being pregnant at the same time. Did a lot of relief. Sometimes 9 periods straight. Was so hungry!
Apr 2007-
Baby Rayden was born on 30th April 2007 @ 1349. He was an overdue baby! Due date's supposed to be 28th April. I guessed he didn't feel ready to come out then.
I was at my mum's on 29th April. Felt mild contractions but could still take it. Came back with Kyan in the evening time. Asri had to work late. Then the contractions were stronger. It was 12midnight. I knew it wouldn't be so fast so I forced myself to sleep. Kept waking up every 15mins to 1/2 hour. It rained heavily in the middle of the night. I felt too lazy to wake up and prepare everything in the cozy weather so I forced myself to sleep again. Finally woke up at 6am. Called school to tell them I wasn't going that day. Then we packed and sent the half-sleep Kyan to my mum's.
When we got to the hospital, it was already 715am. Was admitted and waited for Doc Han to come. Told him straight that I wanted epidural. I did not want to challenge my threshold for pain. He said he had to burst the waterbag before they could administer the jab. Trust me- I've never been so violated before! The pain of the waterbag being burst was@!!?? After the jab, I could relax and sleep while waiting for the dilation.
THEN I felt pain! Extreme pain on my right abdominal. Called in the doc. He said there was a slight chance that my C-section wound may burst! I panicked. I was in so much pain that I asked to have the epidural dosage increased! Thank God they did. And I was back to my initial relaxed state. *phew*
Soon it was noon. Asri felt hungry so he went down to have a bite. The nurse came in to check for my dilation. She asked where Asri had gone to. I told her he was having lunch. She said I had better get him to come back FAST.
He did but he smelt so much of curry that I felt sick. So poor him, he went to gargle his mouth with liquid hand wash to get rid of the smell. Then Doc Han came in. I was asked to lift up my legs. Apparently, I've reached full dilation and they could see the baby's hair! I was asked to push. I did but I couldn't feel anything! So Doc Han actually pushed my stomach in a downward motion to "push" the baby out. Then the nurse had to clean his mouth before she "whacked" him to make him cry. Th reason being-he had pooped and had poo on his mouth! Yuck! *smiles* That's baby Rayden!
Then he was weighed and measured....while I was being stitched up. I didn't feel anything at all. I could still laugh and joke. Then I held Baby Rayden in my arms. The feeling was just indescribable.
I stayed a night at the hospital and it sucked cos I couldn't sleep. I missed Kyan and Asri so much. The good thing was I could go back the next day. The bad news was that baby Rayden had to stay on cos he had jaundice. Poor thing!
Thank God he could go back on 2nd May. Then that was the start of the month long confinement period.
May 2007-
To sum it up, I've been through RE_STITCHING of the wound!, Malay massage in which Saniah burped so excessively, breastfeeding and spending lots of time online! *Grin*
June 2007-
Back to work at the centre and Baby Rayden was placed in Bright Kids.
August 2007-
Finally mustered up enough courage to go for lasik! Actually, Belle and I had our op just a day after our evaluation test so there wasn't much time to think. It was the best rash decision I've made for myself. It was as if I've regained my "new" eyesight, which logically speaking, is quite true.
September 2007-
I received my first Coach bag from darling Asri for my birthday! *Whee*
December 2007-
I received my first Coach wallet from Asri...again! *yay*
- Centre's biz was better this year than last year. May it be better next year!
- I'm happy with my life at the present moment. Everything's in place and I feel contented.
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Kyan's reasoning
Kyan has been holidaying so much that he has gotten the I-dun-want-to-go-back-to-school blues. He cried nearly every morning since 2nd Jan 2008. I called up his teacher to ask about him. Teacher Alina said he'll cry each time he takes his shower in school. She figured it was probably the new classroom's toilet that traumatizes him cos the tap's water pressure's stronger so he didn't really like it. She said she'll talk to him. That was last week.
This week's so much better! He'll tell me that he's a good boy in school.
Mummy: Kyan, did you wash your hair in school today?
Kyan: No, I washed body only.
Mummy: Why you washed your body only?
Kyan: Because I didn't wash my hair!
Mummy: *surrendered*
This week's so much better! He'll tell me that he's a good boy in school.
Mummy: Kyan, did you wash your hair in school today?
Kyan: No, I washed body only.
Mummy: Why you washed your body only?
Kyan: Because I didn't wash my hair!
Mummy: *surrendered*
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